BDSM for Beginners

Have you or your spouse recently read “Fifty Shades of Grey” and simply realized that it was just not enough as it came for all that promised BDSM juice on the back cover of the book? Congrats! You’re not alone. Well, Mr. Grey might have opened a small door to a whole new sexy world for you, but eventually (watch out! Here comes a spoiler!) all of those vanilla sex scenes just weren’t enough to understand the deep, very deep, sense of BDSM. If you are looking for the soft core of the hard core sex, you have just landed in the right place. Here are five easy pieces of the real fifty shades of Grey.

 

1. I CAN REALLY FEEL THAT SPECIAL BOND(AGE) BETWEEN US

As it comes to bondage, some might want to start off with regular cuffs, to get the feeling of going “hardcore”, or fuzzy and furry hand cuffs to get that nice feeling of sweet and sour… but those who’d choose these options will quickly find out that these cuffs will just hurt in a way you didn’t plan for this BDSM session. If you are absolute beginners, you should defiantly go for a beginner’s bondage kit with ties both for hands and legs, plus, a soft blindfold (unfortunately) never hurts. 😉

If bondage kits are only fun and games for you two lovers, and you MUST check out how bondage in unlimited possibilities look like, then a rope and a guide should do the work for you, while you are making sure no harm will be cause to you or your partner. Not only, this is a good way to get some ideas about how your passionate night of D&S role playing is going to look like.

 

2. THAT’S SPNAKING HOT!

Everyone likes spanking! Don’t they? Well, it seems that for the BDSM lovers, this is just not enough. After all, no pain – no gain, and the more it hurts, the better it feels… Probably the best weapon against a partner who has been very naughty and now needs to be punished, is to whip them a little. This educational punishment could be done either with a rubber flogger or a leather slapper again, and again, and again, until they beg you to stop, and promise that from now on they’ll be good and disciplined. BTW, if they are too whiny about all of this situation, simply gag them!

 

3. CLAMPS – NOT ONLY FOR YOUR LAUNDRY…

O.K., you might want to leave your laundry clamps outside of this… I mean, using clamps, of any kind, on nipples is QUITE sexy, but let’s keep that dark mysterious vibe you’d probably wish to create. I must admit that once deciding to go into the BDSM world, the whole issue of nipples and clit clamps are not the first thing that comes to mind, but if you want to make the best out of this experience, this is a must. Just imagine you or your partner getting pinched in the nipple, but not only for a small second… Let’s say, something like 10, 30 seconds or more… Try and think of this pain concentrated in an area full of so much gentle blood vessels. And now, after we are done with this small guided imagery session, it’s time to check out these nipples pump kit, clit clamps or nipple and clit clamps with chain for your next BSDM session for beginners. 🙂

 

4. SURPRISE THEM FROM BEHIND

Messing with the whole anal issue isn’t too common as it comes to vanilla sex, but it isn’t necessary as part of BDSM. The most important thing about a BDSM session is that everything that’s done while in it, is agreed. One important thing, before discussing the fun and games that can be produced out of the anal part, is that during a session, a safety word will be determined, so that D&S could both enjoy it. Now, after we’re clear about this, if you want to spice it up some more as for your beginner’s BDSM session, an anal plug (Yes… Just like in these movies you might have watched once or twice…) could be inserted while tied in doggy-style or upside down. Having an intercourse while having an anal plug inserted in, could cause your spouse a whole new level of pleasure.

 

5. DON’T FORGET TO PUT ON A CUSTOM!

Last, but not lease, is to keep the environment authentic, and probably, you just can’t do it without the proper customs, which are more than fit for the whole idea of role playing in sex. How about a sexy wet-cat-look for her as a DOM? Or maybe, if she’s the SUB, you should go on that dark hangman’s look… KINKY!

 

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